I'm not usually a negative person but I thought in whingeing a litttle bit, it may in fact make some of you think twice before being nice. (someone has been to me today and it made me think of this)
One of the reasons I have downgraded and changed my tank so much in the past 3 years I've been in marines is what has happened to me in the last 3 years,
This story applies to zoas only which is why I've posted it in here rather than a more general chat website.
When I started in zoas the last time I felt I came out a bit worse off than when I started. As soon as I joined up being the nice person I am I quickly made myself known just by being there so much ( a bit like now ) Some one joined the forum at pretty much the same time as myself so as I knew as I was struggling so much buying new coral , I knew he was as well what with working to support a new baby and recent house move with his girlfriend being on maternity etc .
Everytime I got a new zoa I would send him half so even if they were expensive I knew it would be ok as when his gf was bak at work he would send me a swap at roughly the same price range.In total over all the time we were talking I sent him probably 12 different types of zoas and one coral package of 3 hammer heads , 1 torch head a few more expensive zoas a few mushrooms , xenia , gsp and a kenya tree cutting
.A few months down the line I decide to upgrade and as his gf has been back at work for a few months I ask him if he can spare a few polyps of some on the new ones he had bought lately ( Not stalking or anything just buying from another marine website I use as well ) I knew he had bought at least 6 new types some higher end , he said they were on grow out so I left it.
In the next few months he carried on buying new zoas at alot quicker pace than I could as I was upgrading and needed the money for that He also swapped a few and sold a few. I jumped from a 100L to over 1000L in one step well as you can imagine it looked barren so I asked again about any cuttings he may have , he said he would be moving in about 8 weeks (closer to me) so if we waited we could perhaps meet up and exchange in person it would save stress on the coral , fine I thought 8 weeks I can cope with a bit of bare tank ,
Before I recieved any I had a major tank crash and lost almost everything once I got sorted I really wanted the new coral he promised to send me the very next week he listed his entire tank and contents and has since ignored any of my e-mails asking if he is ok.
And to the person who has been nice to me today if you ever have a tank crash I will send as many frags to you as I can