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#1 Missyuk

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Posted 20 October 2014 - 10:19 PM

I'm not usually a negative person but I thought in whingeing a litttle bit, it may in fact make some of you think twice before being nice. (someone has been to me today and it made me think of this)

One of the reasons I have downgraded and changed my tank so much in the past 3 years I've been in marines is what has happened to me in the last 3 years,

This story applies to zoas only which is why I've posted it in here rather than a more general chat website.

When I started in zoas the last time I felt I came out a bit worse off than when I started. As soon as I joined up being the nice person I am I quickly made myself known just by being there so much ( a bit like now ) Some one joined the forum at pretty much the same time as myself so as I knew as I was struggling so much buying new coral , I knew he was as well what with working to support a new baby and recent house move with his girlfriend being on maternity etc .

Everytime I got a new zoa I would send him half so even if they were expensive I knew it would be ok as when his gf was bak at work he would send me a swap at roughly the same price range.In total over all the time we were talking I sent him probably 12 different types of zoas and one coral package of 3 hammer heads , 1 torch head a few more expensive zoas a few mushrooms , xenia , gsp and a kenya tree cutting

.A few months down the line I decide to upgrade and as his gf has been back at work for a few months I ask him if he can spare a few polyps of some on the new ones he had bought lately ( Not stalking or anything just buying from another marine website I use as well ) I knew he had bought at least 6 new types some higher end , he said they were on grow out so I left it.

In the next few months he carried on buying new zoas at alot quicker pace than I could as I was upgrading and needed the money for that He also swapped a few and sold a few. I jumped from a 100L to over 1000L in one step well as you can imagine it looked barren so I asked again about any cuttings he may have , he said he would be moving in about 8 weeks (closer to me) so if we waited we could perhaps meet up and exchange in person it would save stress on the coral , fine I thought 8 weeks I can cope with a bit of bare tank ,

Before I recieved any I had a major tank crash and lost almost everything once I got sorted I really wanted the new coral he promised to send me the very next week he listed his entire tank and contents and has since ignored any of my e-mails asking if he is ok.

Whinge over

And to the person who has been nice to me today if you ever have a tank crash I will send as many frags to you as I can :)


Missy

-xxx-


#2 chopchop

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Posted 20 October 2014 - 10:40 PM

I've had 2 tank crashes in my time ...and got help in both......

I'm a BIG fan of " pay it forward"

Still waiting for your pm for freebies..... miss!

#3 Missyuk

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Posted 20 October 2014 - 11:11 PM

I felt bad asking esp when he started refusing :unsure:


Missy

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#4 chopchop

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Posted 20 October 2014 - 11:25 PM

As a rule ...I never ask for anything.......of anybody.....that way you don't get let down

#5 Missyuk

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  • Wish List:Too many to list but first up will be fruit loops .

Posted 20 October 2014 - 11:43 PM

It wasn't an ask so much of a hint , a big hint . I don't think I ever asked outright just sort of expected an offer of help from what I thought was a friend.

 

I also thought if you do nice things for others they may do it back but it seems some people just take advantage.


Missy

-xxx-


#6 grizzlymonkyboy

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    Stiggy marley
    utter peace
    jf bloodshot
    tree house of horror
    johnny pumpkin seed
    startrck pe
    highlighters
    pink krak
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Posted 21 October 2014 - 12:04 AM

yes some do take advantage I have had the same in another hobby... someone take take take and give nothing back at all



#7 Mark Williams

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Posted 21 October 2014 - 06:28 AM

There's fcuckers in every hobby which is a damn shame.  :( 

 

(chopchop stop sending me those very unsubtle hints :lol: )



#8 chopchop

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Posted 21 October 2014 - 06:46 AM

There's fcuckers in every hobby which is a damn shame.  :( 
 
(chopchop stop sending me those very unsubtle hints :lol: )


I don't know what you mean???

Where's my frag mo fo???..........or say hello to my little friend.....LMAO!!!
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#9 Missyuk

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Posted 21 October 2014 - 11:47 AM

Rofl ! :lol:

 

What else you into then monkey?


Missy

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#10 grizzlymonkyboy

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    Psychosis
    Psycho circus
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    Wild Nightmare
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    CK Constellation
    CK speckled emperor maul

    Stiggy marley
    utter peace
    jf bloodshot
    tree house of horror
    johnny pumpkin seed
    startrck pe
    highlighters
    pink krak
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Posted 21 October 2014 - 11:53 AM

i have a large collection of dart frogs and in that hobby we have some amazing people some i even call friends and some not so nice people :-)



#11 BenBonell

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Posted 21 October 2014 - 12:02 PM

Send me your address, I will pop you some little gems in the post tomorrow.

Let me have something back whenever, if you like em that is! ;)



Ben

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#12 RedDiver

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Posted 21 October 2014 - 12:52 PM

Nice gesture Ben.

#13 craigieboy

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Posted 02 December 2014 - 12:35 PM

not a nice story some folk are just bad, others are stars when you least expect it



#14 Becs

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Posted 07 December 2014 - 08:54 PM

I've met some amazing people in this hobby and thankfully haven't been screwed over, but I have in other hobbies and it's not nice. I've had two tank crashes in marines, including my current 5fter, and haven't had help - I'd always help others, though, but sometimes people make you feel stupid for being too nice. I hope everything's going better now Missy :)



#15 homersainty

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    and a few shazzam
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Posted 07 December 2014 - 10:30 PM

shame u are not a little closer as im shutting my tank down for now and need to off load all my livestock dont have much but its all free to a good home



#16 RedDiver

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Posted 08 December 2014 - 11:36 AM

shame u are not a little closer as im shutting my tank down for now and need to off load all my livestock dont have much but its all free to a good home

Nice offer David. Are you closing down for good or is it just a temporary measure?

#17 mrgray

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Posted 09 December 2014 - 04:59 PM

shame u are not a little closer as im shutting my tank down for now and need to off load all my livestock dont have much but its all free to a good home

Very generous of you homer. Are you close to me? Lol.

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